Grieving through the Holidays

As the holidays roll around, it's that time of the year when everyone seems to be bustling with cheer and excitement. But for many of us, this season can bring a different kind of emotion – grief. When you've lost someone dear, the holidays can feel like a bittersweet whirlwind of memories and emotions. If you're navigating through this journey of grieving during the holidays, here are a few thoughts that might resonate with you.

Make Your Holiday Plans Work for You

The pressure to conform to the traditional holiday festivities can feel overwhelming. The truth is though, there's no rule that says your holiday season has to look a certain way. It's okay to make your plans work for you – no matter how that compares to the festivities of years past. Whether it's participating in your family's traditions, creating new ones, or simply taking time for yourself, do what feels right for your emotional well-being.

Your Grief is Yours

Remember, your grief is personal, and you don't owe anyone a front row seat to it. It's perfectly fine to set boundaries and decide how much or how little you want to engage in holiday celebrations. While it may feel like you’re expected to put on a brave face and attend, it's alright to step back if you need to. Take the time and space you need to honor your feelings.

Say Their Name

While you don’t owe anyone a conversation about how your grief journey is going, sharing it with someone who makes you feel safe and loved can be a huge relief. Talking about your person who passed can feel daunting, but sharing memories and stories about them can be incredibly healing. Don't be afraid to reminisce about the good times, shed a tear, or share a laugh over the beautiful memories you hold dear. Despite how some people may make us feel, grief is not contagious, and including your loved one in conversations can keep their memory alive in your heart.

Incorporate New Traditions if It Feels Right

Sometimes, creating new traditions in memory of your loved one can be comforting. It can be as simple as lighting a candle in their honor, continuing to set their place setting at the family meal, preparing their favorite dish, or playing their favorite music during the holiday gatherings. These small yet meaningful gestures can help you feel connected to them and acknowledge their presence in the midst of the festivities.

Grieving through the holidays isn't easy. It's messy, emotional, and sometimes overwhelming. But amidst the sorrow, there's also an opportunity to cherish the beautiful memories and honor the love you shared. So, take it one step at a time, be gentle with yourself, and remember, it's okay not to have it all figured out. Your feelings are valid, and finding your own way to navigate this season is what truly matters.

Wishing you peace, comfort, and moments of warmth during this holiday season. You're not alone.

- Hillary Maier & The Nurture Family